Loss and Grief
Grief reflects the emotional relationship with a loss, caused by the death of someone close or a pet, but also through a divorce, unemployment, diagnosis of infertility, retirement, moving home, leaving a son, a disabling disease, and all that represents the end of some part of our life as we know it. Paradoxical as it may seem, until a new job, marriage, or a deep inner change are likely to trigger feelings of grief. In these situations, the flash of joy and sadness can lead to some confusion.
There is an Irish proverb that says that we all live under the others. One is that the more comfortable for this "house of the soul", the more intense is the cold that comes from within, for different reasons, we are deprived of their friendship.
We miss you, miss you so much! This sentiment reflects the lack much Lusitanian, the place was empty and that will never be filled.
Those who view life as a passage reunion and believe in the future, live the departure of loved ones with a bittersweet feeling. Anyway, there is a wide range of feelings that, at the same time or in cascade, will affecting those who are bereaved. Sadness, anger, guilt (often irrational) and anxiety (with possible panic attacks), are most intense. Anxiety can bring the fear of not being able to take care of themselves without the deceased person, or even become a phobia, because the individual saddened tends to start thinking about their own mortality.
Fatigue, (which can manifest itself through apathy or disinterest, even on the most active), loneliness (emotional or social), helplessness (in the first phase), shock (especially in cases of sudden and unexpected death It can also occur in situations of prolonged illness), the urge to return to the person himself (and that does not disappear when a traumatic grief may designate), emancipation (if the person's death is synonymous with greater freedom), the relief (if the death was due to prolonged illness and painful or if the relationship was difficult), that are often accompanied by feelings of guilt, and numbness (inability to feel at first, which serves as protection for the flood of emotions that plagues person after learning of the death) comprise a set of experiments also normal.
In addition to these, there are a number of possible physical symptoms, including an empty stomach, tightness in the chest or throat, shortness of breath and depersonalization (nothing seems real), muscle weakness, dry mouth and increased sensitivity noise.
Cognitions (thoughts applicants that, to persist, are likely to lead to depression or anxiety) and unbelief (do not believe what happened, do not want to believe) and confusion (one is not able to put ideas into order, it is hard to concentrate, memory is impaired) are also common.
The sense of presence, sleep disturbances (involving the fear of not waking up or dreaming), distraction and forgetfulness, isolation, disorders of food (eating more or less than usual, with consequent changes in weight during this period), crying spells, agitation (to the point of not being able to stillness), avoid or, alternatively, contact locations and objects that make remembering the deceased, and even see it in other people, are components of phases grieving process.
Grief can be very painful and frightening. The shock and confusion to equilibrium, one has to go through the chaos. All feelings, however, are part of the acceptance of loss and help to give it a meaning.