Treatment of Grief
Sometimes we revolt with the "theft" of beings who are dear, and often resort to inappropriate ways of performing the mourning and live with that. Want to understand something that has no explanation leads to psychological distress, and a favorable environment for diseases of humor.
Many of the normal behaviors of grief can cause misunderstanding with symptoms of depression, especially the intensity of sadness and changes in sleep and appetite. However, there is a distinguishing factor: the depressed subjects there is a lack of self-esteem, with consequent oppositional vision of themselves, others and the world that does not occur in mourning. Although depression is a normal grieving process, if the prevalence exceeds the first year of the death is considered clinically relevant and require specialized intervention.
Resorting to a treatment for grief represents an invaluable aid to deal with the various stages of processing. The first of these steps with respect to the denial, which can range from a slight distortion to a complete illusion. Acceptance takes time because you have to do in terms of intellectual and emotional. In this way, incredulity and confrontation with reality will alternate. When you do not get to see the body of the deceased or the death is sudden, the feeling of unreality is even more atrocious.
Living with the pain of grief is the second phase. The intensity and the forms of feeling pain are distinct, but the strength of the emotions is enormous. Society and others, albeit with the intention of relieving, can meet the bereaved person's defenses, suggesting that she is just feeling sorry for herself, that the deceased would not want her to feel well, you do not need suffer, that life is for living. This is likely to lead to the denial of pain you are experiencing, the refusal to feel, idealizing the deceased, allowing only pleasant thoughts about it, traveling, using alcohol, drugs ... The treatment of mourning involves the integration of pain caused him, on pain of physical symptoms or behaviors arise out of the ordinary.
Adapting to the environment where is no longer the person who died is the next effort, which requires external adjustments (related to day-to-day, and that may lead to revolt by the urgent need to develop skills to perform some of the roles of the person deceased, but on the other hand, are likely to generate benefits in the sense of autonomy, for example), internal adaptations (the feelings of helplessness, inability, inadequacy, childish or "failure" can assail the emotional mourners, especially those who based the definition of themselves in relation to the person who died) and spiritual adaptations (questioning is normal after a death, the fundamental values, beliefs and philosophical worldview, which received much influence the person who died). The search for meaning in loss and life changes inherent in the attempt to regain some control guided a certain disorientation and lack of direction. As time passes, it is possible to adopt new beliefs and / or reassess and modify old ones, to include in them a sense of fragility of life and our minimum control over it.
The treatment also helps fight at the final stage of the process, which is to create a new framework for the deceased person's emotional, so that the individual mourner go ahead and not refuse to love again, afraid of the pain of another loss. Find a space and ways of remembering is fundamental.
A fight is well done when it is able to accept the loss in peace. Two years is the average time for the appeasement of the inner pain and to create an image of someone who has gone quiet.